Chances are high that you’ve heard such Chicken Soup for the Soul:
Don’t indulge yourself in safety. That’s like boiling a frog in warm water. It will slowly kill you and you won’t even notice it.
You should get out of your comfort zone. Go for some challenges. Only by doing that can you grow stronger.
You can only really learn what’s useful when you are facing immediate crisis. Nobody grows in a stable environment.
And I only have one sentence for all these soup:
Recently, one of M’s friend was about to graduate. He had been looking for a job and he came to M for advice.
This friend of M’s now works as an intern in a public institution. This institution deals with international trades and provides a lot opportunities of international communication. And they pay the employees nicely.
Besides, it has a feature that most public institutions share: leisure.
The jobs are nine-to-five and you rarely work overtime there. You can say that it’s many people’s dream workplace.
And the most thrilling part is that the institution wants this friend of M’s to become a regular employee. They offered him to stay.
But what’s astonishing is that this friend turned them off.
And this is why he came to M.
He was afraid that he would lose his competitiveness in such a secured environment.
He was afraid that he would become the frog.
He thought he should find a place with fiercer competition and acquire abilities there.
And for the payment part, though what the institution offered is way higher than what most fresh graduates can get, but he had heard about the surprisingly high starting salary that BAT pay their employees.
So he confidently thought that he could certainly find a better job.
However, he does not have any other offer at hand.
This beautiful future is just his imagination so far.
M was nearly scared to death when he heard this.
He was originally planing to persuade this friend to stay there.
But fortunately, there are still several months left before the friend’s internship ends. And anyway, it was the institution which proposed the job in the first place. So there is still a chance for him to turn back.
Yes, if you examine all those success books and industry legends, you would find a lot of successful cases which were born under great risks.
The spirit of adventure seems to have become something worshiped by the whole society.
On the other hand, a stable job is usually despised by people. They think it shows a person’s lack of ambition and even lack of merits.
But all these successful cases born under great risks are just like the thought that you grow faster in severe competition. They are both survivor bias.
The ones who can show up in front of you and tell you this are the minority who survived. Most of the others have already died and disappeared. They don’t have the chance to come and warn you.
Yes, this is the current job market. Many young people who came to the first-tier cities ended up in devastating failures.
And you won’t know these people’s stories.
Back to the salary part. You may know that a fresh graduate can easily get a starting salary more than 10,000 RMB per month in a BAT company.
What you don’t know is that BAT eliminate a lot of people every year. There is no guarantee that you can keep this high-paying job.
Do you know why there are always that many people who once worked in BAT but now are in the job market again?
It’s not that they all crave adventure and want to push their horizon.
Many of them were kicked out because they were not good enough.
And beside all these, even if you can get a high-paying job in a major company, what you face there would probably be overwhelming overtime working.
For example, there are many companies in Shanghai in which people work from 9:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. 6 days a week. They call it 996.
So don’t let yourself be fooled by those Chicken Soup for the Soul.
And don’t despise a stable life.
This balanced state of life is a rare treasure.
So many young people fight like hell in those major companies not because they enjoy the thrill of challenges but because they want to make such balance for themselves.
The ultimate skill for survival has never been the spirit of adventure or the ability to endure suffering.
It is the ability of managing risks.
That’s what you should learn.