Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset” ; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become a ware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.
36.If a mother adds ”but” to an apology,________.
A) she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized.
B) she does not realize that the child has
been hurt
C) the child may find the apology easier to accept
D) the child may feel that he owes her an apology
37.According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means”_______”
A)You have good reason to get upset
B)I’m aware you’re upset ,but I’m not to blame
C)I apologize for hurting your feelings
D)I’m at fault for making you upset
38.It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because______.
A)it gets one into the habit of making empty promises
B)it may make the other person feel guilty
C)it is vague and ineffective
D)it is hurtful and insulting
39.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry______.
A)the complexities involved should be ignored
B)their ages should be taken into account
C)parents need to set them a good example
D)parents should be patient and tolerant
40.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _________.
A)a social issue calling for immediate attention
B)not necessary among family members
C)a sign of social progress
D) not as simple as it seems
Part III Vocabulary (20minutes)
41. Some people believe that since oil is scarce, the ____of the motor industry is uncertain.
A)terminal B)benefit C)fate D)estimate
42.To speed up the ______of letters, the Post Office introduced automatic sorting.
A)treatment B)delivery C)transmission D)departure
43.These overseas students show great ______ for learning a new language.
A)enthusiasm B)authority C)convention D)faith
44.The defense lawyer was questioning the old man who was one of the ______of the murder committed last month.
A)observers B)witnesses C)audiences D)viewers
45.Politically these nations tend to be ______,with very high birth rates but poor education and very low levels of literacy.
A)unstable B)reluctant C)rational D)unsteady
46.The chairman was blamed for letting his secretary ________too much work last week.
A)take to B)take out C)take away D)take on
47."You try to get some sleep. I‘ll _____the patient‘s breakfast, "said the nurse.
